Saying No

There is power in the NO

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My NO’s is making room for my alignment. I’m learning in the power of a No, when it is not in alignment with my character, values, standards and purpose. Oftentimes, I love to say no, but I do feel guilty saying it. Guilt is normal when you are choosing to do what’s best for you instead of what’s best for your family, work, business, romance, friendships & technology. I believe the guilt stems from not wanting to hurt another person's feelings, but I had to realize my feelings matter too. Suffering, avoiding or even being in denied because I’m scared to hurt another person's feelings was my gateway to resentment. I realized in the Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself' by Nedra Glover Tawwab that resentment is a sign that I need healthy boundaries. She stated ‘When we are resentful, we do things out of obligation to others instead of for the joy of helping’. Chileeeeee that’s me, 10 toes down and I realized that isn’t healthy although my intent is to do it from a place of love. I’m learning to check my gut, communicate my needs and stand on them. At the end of the day, a boundary is a safe space for me to thrive in. Practicing No isn’t an easy thing but it’s a necessary thing; that’s self care at it best. What you learn (Educate), what you know (Enlighten) and what you do (Enforce) is how you get clear, concise and concrete on setting boundaries with your mind, body, soul and spirit; boundaries will incorporate who you were, teaches you who you are and protects who you are becoming. There is power in the NO, be okay with knowing it doesn’t always feel good but it’s good for you!

Cadedra Burks

Saying No

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