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Protecting your Boundaries

Nothing is ever too much, unnecessary or extreme when it comes to protecting you


Who and what do you have to protect yourself from? This is a question that popped into my soul after watching Sistas on BET. Oftentimes we overlook our boundaries because ‘it’ can be deemed as normal in some situations, but the truth of the matter is, IT IS NOT OKAY. It’s not okay when someone disrespect, disregard and dismiss your feelings, boundaries or who you are. What is okay is knowing exactly what you will or will not tolerate, what is healthy for you, what is best for you and the measures it takes to protect that. Nothing is ever too much, unnecessary or extreme when it comes to protecting you; that goes for how you treat yourself and how you allow others to treat you. I’m so happy I took the time to invest in my standards, values, character and purpose because it taught me to set, honor and revise my needs, feelings, triggers and my self soothing regimen. Identifying needs varies per person; when we don’t know or say what it is that we need it can lead to unsafe, unsatisfied and unprotected outlooks. Having needs doesn’t make you needy, I read that somewhere and it’s so true. Having needs will cultivate your lifestyle, don’t be afraid to make sure you take care of yourself first. Tuh, to keep the car reliable it has to have gas. Feelings are your gateway to express yourself in your lane (get into this car analogy we are on). The only time you need to get over in another lane is when you realize that your exit is coming. Your exit is a sign that something no longer is working for you and you need to shift. That shift is a trigger that usually gives a signal. Whatever signal you decide after the shift is a way you can self soothe. Your protection of self is necessary to live, love and laugh in the best version of yourself. Don’t you forget that you are worthy of all the parts; all the upkeep it keeps for a car to run. Check your engine and see what you need, how you feel, when you are triggered and why it is important to self soothe; that is showing yourself you are worthy of protecting your boundaries.

Cadedra Burks

Protecting your Boundaries

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